Lesbian Queer Sapphic Coming Out Later in Life Support Group

It takes courage and strength to be our authentic selves!

Two virtual groups starting in late Fall 2026.

The coming out group combines support, coaching, information, and sharing. 

What does coming out mean to you?

How to adjust to the “new” identities that accompany your personal, familial, and public shifts to being more “out” to yourself and others.

What support do you have and need?

Define your self-care when facing disapproval or rejection.

How to respectfully handle coming out to a spouse and/or children.

Improve your assertiveness, conflict management, and communication skills.

Learn problem-solving and decision-making strategies.

I feel like I am blowing up my life, and I feel simultaneously guilty, afraid, selfish, cautious, lonely, confused, AND curious, relieved, authentic, and excited.

• For more information and to schedule your free 30-minute consultation in October: Contact Irene Greene at irene@irenegreene.com

About These Two New Fall 2026 Coming Out Groups:

• About These Two New Fall 2026 Coming-Out Support, Coaching, and Information-Sharing Groups:
  ~35+ people who identify as lesbian, bisexual, fem, queer, late bloomer, sapphic, later-in-life lesbian, and share a romantic and/or sexual attraction to women, and hold a socially conscious and progressive framework.
   
  Keep in mind that while you all share the experience of coming out, there will be many differences in how, when, why, what, where, who, etc. Some group members have been or are married. Some have children. Some have neither experience. Some may have dated a woman before or even be in a relationship with a woman. Others may not. Some may have come out a while ago and are now dealing with related issues.
   
  That’s all okay. All are welcome here.
   
  I have about 20 people on the waitlist. If those folks are still interested and available, I will start two groups.
  Each group will have five to eight members.
  Each group session is confidential.
  These fourteen-week, 90-minute-each, virtual groups will meet on Zoom.
  The fee is $60/session. There are two adjusted fee slots/group

  The groups are open to folks from anywhere in the country or world.

  Meeting Times:
  These groups start the week of 11.9.26
  # 1 group – Tuesdays at 430p-6p CDT. Group meets: T., 11.10.26 – T., 2.29.27 (No meetings on holidays.)
  #2 group – Wednesday at 1p-330p CST. Group meets: W., 11.11.26 – 3.1.27 (No meetings on holidays.)

• • For more information and to schedule your free 30-minute consultation in October: Contact Irene Greene at irene@irenegreene.com

More detailed information about the issues that are typically discussed in these coming out groups:

• Share your coming out story while you are living it.
• Explore what it means for you to accept, be, and express more fully and authentically who you are.
• Identify how your values will help guide your coming-out/being-out process and decisions.
• If you do, how do you identify/label your sexual identity and why? What are your pronouns and why?
• What have been the costs and benefits to you of not coming out until now?
• Address and decrease your feelings of isolation, shame, fear, anxiety, confusion, loss, uncertainty, regrets, and guilt.
• How is the current social and political environment impacting your coming out, sense of safety, feelings of shame, and discomfort?
• Are there choices you have made in your coming out process that you regret or don’t feel good about? 
• Identify the decisions you need to make.
• Make a coming-out related goal while you are in the group and receive weekly support and coaching along the way.
• The decrease in heterosexual comfort, privilege, rights, acceptance, and safety.
• Experiences of internalized homophobia and heterosexism, emotionally, physically, and your self-talk, i.e., guilt, self-loathing, disgust with same-sex sex, anti-LGBTQ+ self-talk and thoughts.
• How the issues of age, race, class, religion, ability, and intergenerational trauma intersect with your coming out process.
• What issues come up for you over the winter holidays?
• Where and how do I fit into the LGBTQ+ community?
• Share the concerns, fears, and joys of dating and having sex.

ISSUES RELATED TO YOUR MALE SPOUSE (if you have one):

• Concerns, decisions, and problem-solving strategies related to coming out of a “straight” marriage (e.g., talking to your spouse, getting a divorce or staying together, polyamory, co-parenting, housing, money management, telling family and friends, extramarital affair, caretaking your spouse’s feelings).
• What if I change my mind and stay in my marriage? Why and how can I do that?

ISSUES RELATED TO YOUR CHILDREN (if you have them):

• “Coming out” to your children – dos and don’ts.
• When should I introduce my children to someone I am dating?
• Tips on dos and don’ts related to when and how my co-parent and I can best tell the children.
• What does “centering the needs of the children” mean in relation to a possible divorce and my coming out?

CONCEPTS & RESOURCES:

• What does queer community mean? What if I just want to be my partner and me?
• Explore lesbian herstory and queer history. 
• Why do we have LGBTQ+ Pride festivals? Why is it important that I know about Stonewall?
• Discuss LGBTQ+ definitions and stereotypes, i.e., heterosexism, heteronormativity, heterosexual privilege, and internalized homophobia. What is the difference between sexual identity and sexuality?
• Why is ” homosexual ” an outdated concept?
• What does queer mean? 
• Types and forms of sexual and gender identities.
• What is the difference between my sexual and my gender identities? What is transgender? Why use gender pronouns?
• Share resources (e.g., podcasts, books, blogs, websites, movies, dating sites).

• For more information and to schedule your free 30-minute consultation in October: Contact Irene Greene at irene@irenegreene.com

See the Support and Skills Groups for general information about the groups Irene offers and her approach.