Conflict Resolution

Conflict Resolution Coaching

Are there unresolved conversations or events that are interfering with healthy connections between you and your family member(s) (e.g., childhood issues that need to be named, painful “coming out” dynamics that need to be healed, conflicts that need to be aired) ?

Are there some things that just need to be said and a third party could help facilitate the conversation?

Do you want an objective third party to help you respectfully work through a problem you are having with a friend, neighbor, co-worker, “ex” or family member?

Do you and your ex-partner still need to hash through some things so that you can each move on?

Are there some hard things that you and a friend or former friend need to say and hear to clear the air?

Do you want a trained neutral party present to help you stay on track?

Conflict resolution coaching is for people who want:

• help discussing (and maybe resolving) a problem or difference
• to feel more heard and understood by each other 
• neutral trained guidance to aid in more effective dialogue

In the very least, the parties are often aiming for an objective space to air their perspectives, and at most, hoping for a mutual sense of clarity, understanding and resolution. The outcome may or may include that the parties want to repair issues in order to deepen their friendship or connection. Some people want to feel a sense of respectful closure and may decide to transition out of their friendship or connection.

As your conflict resolution coach, I am committed to providing a non-judgmental, balanced and safe environment for all of the parties to dialogue openly and respectfully with each other.  I bring a unique perspective and skill set to the conflict resolution coaching I offer because I can incorporate my relationship and positive psychology coaching skills, my master’s degree in community counseling, and my training in family mediation.

How It Works

I offer each person a free 30-minute phone consultation so that you can each tell me your perspective on what is going on and what you are hoping the session(s) will accomplish. I will custom design questions for each party to complete verbally and/or in writing prior to the first in-person meeting of the parties involved. This collective information helps inform my work plan with you and also helps to make our time together more efficient and effective. 

Length & Number Sessions: I will make recommendations as to the number, frequency and length of the session(s) based on my conversations with each party about their needs, how many people will be present, and whether or not they are traveling to see me. Typically, the shorter sessions of 120-minutes each are for two-three people and may be weekly or bi-weekly for a few weeks. Sometimes the issues can be resolved in one 120-minute meeting. More complex issues and/or gatherings of more than three people may take about 3 to 5 sessions. This will be discussed and negotiated as we proceed. 

Intensive Session(s)

If the clients are coming in from out of town or are local but would prefer to accomplish more and not space out the meetings, we can schedule Intensive Sessions.  An example of an “intensive” is everyone meeting on a Friday afternoon for a few hours and then returning Saturday (and possibly Sunday) for about 3-5 more hours.

Conflict Resolution Coaching is not:

• Family therapy
• Relationship counseling
• Group counseling

The outcome is not directed by the coach; just the process is. The outcome is determined by the parties involved.

To learn about conflict resolution services, schedule your complimentary 30-minute consultation.

See also Respectful Uncoupling